Elegy IV: To a man that locked up his wife. By Sir Charles SedleyVex not thyself and her, vain man, since allBy their own vice or virtue stand or fall.She's truly chaste, and worthy of that name,Who hates the ill, as well as fears the shame;And that vile woman whom restraint keeps in,Tho' she forbear the act, has done the sin.Spies, locks, and bolts may keep her brutal part,But thou'rt an odious cuckold in her heart.They that have freedom use it least, and soThe power of ill does the design overthrow.Provoke not vice by a too harsh restraint;Sick men long most to drink, who know they mayn't.The fiery courser, whom no art can stay,Or rugged force, does oft fair means obey;And he that did the rudest arm disdain,Submits with quiet to the looser rein.